Many foster kids find it hard to visit family, friends, and relatives. Things can quickly escalate as there are big feelings involved during family visits. So, is it possible to help family visits go well?
Unfortunately, there is no perfect plan to ensure family visits are successful. Still, there are many ways to set things right to make it smooth and pleasant for both parties. Let’s check them out!
1. Encourage Contact with the Birth Parents
It is common for most children to lose contact with their birth parents. Many times, keeping in contact with parents may be in the child’s best interest. However, it is essential to maintain a healthy relationship with parents, especially when reunification is the end goal. Technology can act as a perfect middle ground to keep this connection alive.
2. Proper Preparation Is Key
Before making any visit, prepare enough by managing your emotions and teaching the kids to control theirs. The days before the visit allow the kids to talk freely about their feelings and thoughts. Ask them to talk about expectations, then clarify issues effectively. This way, the kids will feel comfortable before and during the visit.
3. Be Sensitive of the Children’s Feelings
Kids tend to have many feelings, such as uncertainty and nervousness. It would be best to talk to them about parental contact to remove any fears. Above all, remind them that their parents care and love them to make them comfortable during the visit.
4. Make Regular Visits
Contact with parents will be less stressful when everyone understands what to expect. Regular visits allow the kids to spend more time with their parents and build a bond. They will also follow details keenly after successive visits to ease stress.
5. Help Kids Deal With Disappointment
Not all visits go well. Sometimes, parents never show up, and kids can be unpredictable. You can avoid distress and confusion by helping the child deal with disappointment. Be with them, talk to them, and remind them they are safe and cherished.